SOMEONE i met before.

Sometimes, I do think why I was not married to any one of my ex.

 

but then, it comes back to what Allah said in the Holy Quran;

 

(Lazimnya) perempuan-perempuan yang jahat adalah untuk lelaki-lelaki yang jahat, dan lelaki-lelaki yang jahat untuk perempuan-perempuan yang jahat dan (sebaliknya) perempuan-perempuan yang baik untuk lelaki-lelaki yang baik, dan lelaki-lelaki yang baik untuk perempuan- perempuan yang baik. Mereka (yang baik) itu adalah bersih dari (tuduhan buruk) yang dikatakan oleh orang- orang (yang jahat) mereka (yang baik) itu akan beroleh pengampunan (dari Allah) dan pengurniaan yang mulia. (An Nur, verse 26)

 

Suami saya mungkin bukanlah manusia terbaik di dunia. dia juga seorang lelaki biasa, ada kelemahan ada kelebihan. Begitu juga saya. But I was thankful he is my husband. Because I believe no other man I have ever met and fell in love could be as good or even better than him when it comes to loving me.

 

Seorang lelaki yang menyayangi wanitanya akan sedaya upaya menjaga aib isterinya. And I have never seen and heard my husband complaining about me, even I know deep inside there are a few things to grumble about (such as my craze over handbag, my tantrums, my laziness, and how temperamental I could be when I am having PMS).

 

I met a guy who keeps whining that I wasn’t an ideal lady. Even complained about me being fat and unpretty, about me being too fierce yada yada yada. Urgh.

 

A guy who really loves a woman will ONLY lie to take care of his woman’s heart. He won’t usually lie, but when he did, he won’t do it for the sake of hiding his fraud and save himself.

 

Met a guy who is such an ultimate liar. First class in what he is doing (and still doing it), DECEIVING.

 

A sweet guy won’t always talk sweet. But always has the sweetest action. My husband is not really that tv-like romantic. Never tried to suap me in front of his friends, never surprised me with birthday cake and party for my birthday. But he was the one who hold my hand when I was in labour. Picked me up at school with his Navy uniform when I was suffering from severe dysmenorrhea. Treated my family very very well, is proud of having my parents as his in laws. Wished me “Selamat Ulangtahun Pertunangan yang ke-3”, pat his forehead and said “takpelah, nak buat macam mana.” when I hit a Navara with his car, never called me stupid for not knowing how to do simple calculations, wash dishes when I was too tired, do laundry… ahh too many to put down on words.

 

I met a sweet talker. Promised me mountains and hills, but never turned up at the end. The worst was when this jerk promised to come and have dinner with my family and that was when my mom bought the most expensive and lavish ingredients to prepare him nice food. But he never turned up, not even called to inform. I have actually forgave him, but I definitely won't forget.

 

My husband is always ambitious. Always put self-improvement as his life priority. Realised that he is the breadwinner, thus made him a responsible person. He knows what to do in the future, never wanted to quit what he is doing. Passionate of what he is doing and always optimist. Career wise, I never met such a positive person like him ever.

 

I met someone who wasn’t serious about life. As if he never had responsibilities. He was free to come and go, even when it is about his job. Knowing him as a non degree holder, and still one, who plans to quit. I wonder what he can do and will do if he quits. And I feel so damn good I did not choose this SOMEONE as my spouse.

 

And when this someone appeared in my life now, trying to offer a phoney friendship, I know at the first place that he will still be the same SOMEONE I knew 4 years ago. I also knew that this kind of SOMEONE will never ever change. He crushed me before, and will crush me soon.

 

I knew it. And it happened. A liar will always tell lies. Not just to me, but to people around me.

 

No matter how hard he tries to pull me down, I still believe that God has sent me a guardian angel. Someone who will always secure and protect my dignity and future. My husband. InsyaAllah.

 

p/s : to this SOMEONE, i was thankful I met you. But I was enormously thankful that you are not fated for me. Thank you Allah. If it is not for the night I was introduced to this SOMEONE, the chronology of how I met my husband won’t be that interesting. Semoga Allah beri kita hidayah untuk jadi insan yang lebih baik, dan ketemukan seorang isteri yang sekufu dengan you. Amin.